Some things ARE better left unsaid

The more interactions i have with people this simple fact has really stood out to me, some things are better left unsaid. Here is a huge, momumental thought! when you are about to say something, and its something that will make someone feel bad about themselves, or make them feel stupid, or even not wanted, dont freaking say it!
I understand our need to have our opinions heard, and it really is a great thing that we live in a world where our opinions can be heard, its amazing really, but with that choice to have your opinions heard, that is also the good choice of sometimes just keeping silent. because seriously why would you intentionaly say something that would hurt someone you love.
I'm not talking about just mention something in passing that hurts an extremely senstive people and you cant always pretict how your words will effect others. but use good judgement, these are people you know! people who you have been around for a long time, you know the things that hurt them, why in the love of god would you just say something hurtful! get a blog! if its really that important to you to be heard, more important then the ones you love, then get your opinion to yourself, where it wont cause horrible contention and hurt people. and if what you say does hurt people, have the good will to say sorry, that these are the people that you love and that love you, would you really let petty differances, disagreements and down right stupid dramatic crap, get in the way of you loving the people that you should. So lets let it go, get over it, remember that what you say really does effect others and learn to act more responsable towards your words.
why can't we all just get along, why? because people are way to complex to understand their train of thoughts and what guids their actions, but that never means you should stop trying

the greatest thing you'll learn is to love

wow, Mitch did it, he really purposed to me. Friday night was my monthly game night planned, i had been planning it for a month. it was just time for everyone to get together and play games and have a good time, apparently around this same time, mitch bought a ring, and wow what a beautiful ring it is. Anyway, a lot of people where there and we were playing the game of things, and i was stuffing my face with chip dip when the question was read, things you wait for, and one answer was "marriage purposal" and someone, i dont even know who, said mitch was that you, and he said yes and gets down on one knee and pulls out a little red box with my most perfect ring inside. Apart from trying to swallow chips and throw myself at him at the same time i managed to say yes, then he calls erik over and gives him a ring pop and asks to marry him too, of course erik said yes and sucked on the ring pop the whole night. It was amazing, everything i ever pictured, it was so touching that i still want to cry just thinking about it, and i cant stop looking down at my now bejewled finger. I keep thinking it was all a dream because thats how perfect it was, haha i'm sure the next year is not going to be perfect, what with figure out adoption and finding a place to live and orginize our wedding, but i couldnt be more excited for all of it, i want to get started right away, i'm ready for my new family.
and i just want to say this
Nick you stupid jackass, you were totally wrong, about me, about erik and about everything else, you are not the only man who would have me, because i found one who will not only have me but loves so much for exactly the person that i am, fat rolls, weird shapped butt and all my flaws. I only hope we can do the adoption without getting you involved, but if we do i can now say that i can look at you with complete indifferance, you don't matter to our life anymore, and the things you have done to both of us arnt worth thinking about anymore.
And to my soon to be husband, i love you so much and i cant wait to really start our lifes together, all the fights and make up sex and even hallway sex. you are my perfect man, and i really believe we are made for each other.

not a normal 20-something

So I went to a club on saturday and even though it was certianlly interesting to really see how this so called "night life" sort of exsist, it sort of made me relize while spending time with these people that i'm not really a normal 20-something real old. They are all so full of life, and its not like teenagers were their choices dont matter because they dont effect them, 20 somethings know thier choices matter and they are soft of coming to terms with that, and relishing just in that fact of life, and what better way to celebrate life then dancing in a sort of sexual suggestive manner to music that ( in my opinion) has no real depth or purpose other then to just dance suggestivelly. And even though it was fun to kind of step into that life for only a few min, its just not me. When i drink, its more like a relaxing thing, like the alchocol sort of allows my mind to calm down and not stress or think about soooo many things, so when i drink i like to sit and relax, but apparently, as i found out from 2 very nice competely drunk guys, that i wasent having a good time. and that made me think, to these people who are celebrating their applity to finally relish in what life really has to offer, me sitting there nursing my drink would seem a little bit of a downer, but to me, a single mother who spends her days worrying about diapers and nuturtion and money, sitting their nursing my drink is freaking bliss!
Now i'm not sure if its just because of who iam that makes me think i'm differant, because in all fairness i only saw these people having a good time, and i'm sure they have many stresses too, but even to sit back and have a good time in that way? is that what all 20 somethings feel? does being a mother really effect my brain so much that iam unable to really function as a 20 something?
Best part of the night was watching the weird ass music videos for these songs, they just make me laugh! its so odd that when the music video for "i like big butts" came out it was like sooo wrong, but now, well hell if there isent some shaking butt action in a music video then its just not popular

Stupid little boy

I'm so sick of this, i know i have said that before, but i really cant wait any long. I'm tired of being the only damn parent when i was thinking all along that you actually wanted to be apart of this, but i guess you dont, it will always be me without you ever fucking around to help, nope all you do is get off work and go watch tv and play your damn games, and it probably dosent even ever fucking cross your mind that we need you. its like being in the exact same situation as i was before, stuck in this sort of muddy gross pit of hell stuck with a person who never wants to get out so i'm stuck there with them. you don't want to be with me otherwise you would have by now. or maybe you should sit me down and explain to me why exactly you cant afford a 100 dollar ring because i dont get it!! i dont get what the hell is taking so long and i'm sick of waiting, i'm just done, its never going anywhere and you are never going to do the thing you should so. why you wont i have no fucking clue because it is completly obviouse that i'am the best thing thats happened to you and your just a stupid boy who thinks i will just be around forever for you little fun on the weekend and i'll just be okay with that because i'm a stupid fucking girl, i hate you, i hate you so much for doing this to me. I thought finding someone who loved me would mean i wouldnt have to feel alone, but i feel more alone then ever, because your never around and thats never going to change, i just have to get used to it, but i'm not going to, i will leave you, is that what you want? if not then get off your fucking ass and commit to me already.

Mind walls, and physical ones

I really really hate watching him drive away, and its even more maddening to what him to stay so bad, and all the reason that he has to go just kind of leaves me, and i dont care anymore. I know he wants to wait, but i dont want to wait anymore, i'm so sick of the leaving, of the waiting, its so freaking riduclous, i cant remember why its about waiting anymore. just be patient, your time will come, well i'm done with waiting, i want my damn time to be now, i want everything that i think i should have, that i want so bad i can feel it. I miss you already and i hate it, i shouldnt have to miss you, i shouldnt have to long for you. remind me why, what is all this waiting about. i hate it, i just want to cry. please dont make me wait too much longer, i hate saying it to you because i sound stupid and clingy and all those words boys would call me, but i hate waiting for you and not really knowing why. i want to cuddle with you every night and wake up to you and i know you want these things so why, what the hell are we are waiting for